Disclaimer: I will stop talking about this at some point. I was hoping some point was going to be Monday when I had cracked the magic three day mark. I’m not so sure now.
Lacey’s sleeping got worse after the first two nights. She was waking a LOT, and taking forever to go back to sleep. Like 2 hours, forever. I’d be so worked up after that 2 hours that I struggled to get to sleep, not to mention being anxious that she might wake again and I’d have to do it all again.
So we decided to do Operation: Settle. I went and saw my doctor and got a referral to Tresillian. She said I should just do it myself though because Tresillian has a huge wait list and I would have to take time off work to do it. So we talked about a plan and I decided I would set it into action that night (Friday). Usually it takes three nights of teaching her to self settle and then it gets easier.
Hubby was at work until midnight so I was doing it alone. She took a while to settle herself, and it was excruciating listening to her cry but she eventually settled by herself. The thing is though… she settled sitting up. She would fall asleep SITTING UP. So cute, and a little sad.
So I would go in and lie her down, pat her a little and she was asleep.
Anyways… tonight she has vomited everywhere. Vomiting isn’t anything new for her. She likes to stick her fingers down her throat for attention. She did that last night. But tonight it wasn’t from putting her fingers down her throat. It was something else. She doesn’t have a fever, so I think she is well. I will have to keep an eye on her.
I’m just feeling completely melancholy. I don’t like when Lacey is sick. I don’t like seeing her sitting up asleep. I just wanted everything to go to plan. I think adding to this feeling is that my sister just got offered a role as a Director with a big International company today… which means she is moving to the States the day after Lacey’s birthday. I don’t want her to go.
I’m probably tired too, which isn’t helping.
This is where I am at.
Boring, I know. xx
Oh! You poor thing 🙁 I can not imagine how hard Lacey not sleeping is. I do know how stressful it is when your stressing about them STAYING asleep. I hope Lacey gets better soon hun – Sending HUGE hugs your way xoxox
Chantelle, at sleep school they said that lots of children made themselves sick because it meant they could get out of the cot. Maybe give QEC a call and ask them how to handle it. I know it’s hard but keep at it. Maybe put your ipod on and read a book to get yourself away from it all. You know if it helps I’m happy to give you a call during the week to give you some help. Not that I know it all but I’ve been there and I know how hard it is. Lots of hugs to you!! xx
Oh honey *hugs*
I just want to come over there and hug you! Keep going, this will soon pass – just have to make it through.
***HUGS***
I’m going throught the exact…I mean exact same thing right now. My bitty bit is almost 11 months old and I have let her sleep in my bed waaaayyy too much!! The first night we put her down and she cried and cried. Then it became screaming sobs. I went in and told her it was night night time. I hugged her, but I didn’t take her out of her bed. I laid her back down. Covered her up and said “it’s night night time” I left the room and listened to her on the monitor. She cried for a while, but she finally went to sleep. She woke up several times through the night. It was an awful night, but the next night she slept until 5:30 in the morning. She did that for about three nights. The night before last she woke up at three and wouldn’t stop crying so I was naughty and put her in the bed with me. That certainly does not help with the progress we were making. We had to go through a gigantic crying scene last night, but she finally fell asleep and then slept until 11:00. Then we had another huge crying scene. She finally fell back asleep and slept until 5:00. We’re getting there. I know you will too. Don’t give up hope!! I don’t think you ever really learn what to do. They just eventually figure it all out. Even if it takes a while. I have three children and not one of them has learned to sleep by themselve with the same method. Good luck!!
Thanks girls. xx
Megan! I have been dying to hear how the birth went and all the details! Please share!
I called tresillian last night (I haven’t heard of QEC but am thinking they are the same thing). She said not to continue the new sleep routine because she thinks Lacey is getting sick. Instead I had to pat her to sleep. (Lacey hates being patted to sleep – more than being left to settle herself). Anyway I tried to do that. It didn’t work. It took forever too.
I ended up bringing her into bed with me, giving her a quick feed and she went to sleep. I had nothing left to fight it all with.
Well, she isn’t sick at all. She obviously wasn’t getting sick last night. When I mentioned to tresillian that it might be for attention she scoffed at me.
I don’t know what to do now. I know restarting tonight is going to be harder than ever now.
Thanks for the HUGS girls. Mwah.
Penny – It’s not easy, is it? I was seeing such improvements on the first night and I thought last night would be a good step in the right direction. Not so.
Chantelle I so remember these days (and nights) with my kids! My son is 16 now and my princes is getting ready to turn 13 years old. I am sure this is a phase that will pass but I can sympathize with what you are going through.
I hope today is a better day for you both!
Brian
oh its so hard 🙁
Elka hates being patted to sleep too – just makes it worse. I have to leave her to settle alone and hearing her cry makes me feel like such a bad mum. But she does settle really well and I guess it was worth doubting/questioning myself, as crap as I felt at the time..
Wishing you all the best with it.
xoxox
Telle, it’s not boring. This is huge, you are going through such a hard time in your life.
I wish I could help. All I can do is let you know that I am thinking of you and I hope Lacey learns to sleep soon
xx
Oh Chantelle – those cries break your heart. I am thinking of you tonight x
I remember feeling so much like you. My daughter used to vomit when the crying got really bad. Awful stuff – talk about making you feel guilty.
These days will be behind you soon, try to remember that amidst all the crying.
xx