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Letters for my Rafiki

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I’m not a religious person. I mean I’m not officially of any religion, but I believe in God. I also believe in the Universe and I often talk to that. Perhaps I’m just a little bit crazy. Or out there. {Oh dear, my husband is going to mock me about this post, and putting my crazy out on the internet, I’m sure of it!}. Ever since I was a teenager I promised the Universe and God that I would repay them for the life I had. I was lucky. Yes, stuff happened to me as a kid, but I was brought up in a cool family, with fun siblings and a mum who loved us with all her heart, and a dad who did the same. Being born in Australia was pretty neat too. I’ve always just been pretty grateful for my life.

And I’ll admit, I used the ‘repay’ thing as a bargaining tool too. “If you just get me through this {whatever it was that seemed so hard at the time} or is you just find me the man of my dreams {thanks for that one Universe/God} I promise I’ll do really good stuff in the world”.

So I’ve always tried to donate to charities when I can, and to give me time to people in need and just try and be a good person, ‘cos the world needs more good people.

But the pressure to give can be overwhelming at times, can’t it? There’s guilt that comes with not being able to give every single time as well.

So I decided I wanted to focus on giving to one charity, and then doing what I could outside that {like hay for the farmers etc} and then when my kids are a little older I’d donate my time to help with some local people in need. I want to help when I can.

My girlfriend Sarah started a charity a few months ago to help little girls in Kenya who’ve had a really rough start at life. The stories are heart-breaking.


This little girl is only 17 months old and has already had the most brutal start to life. I don’t want to say what happened to her, because it’s really hard to process, and it’s upsetting. Rafiki Mwema {meaning loyal friend} is a safe house where children like this little baby go to, to escape harm, to be loved and taken care of. Sarah’s charity, Rafiki Mwema, raises money to take care of these girls. Sarah and her team cover and all the admin costs etc so all money goes towards to these sweet little people.

We sponsor sweet Tabitha each month to make her life a little better.


The last thing I want to do is make anyone feel bad, or guilty for not doing anything, and that’s not what this post is about. I just wanted to share a little about what Sarah is doing. But also, there is something you can do that won’t cost the earth.

I shared something about Rafiki Mwema on my personal Facebook page recently and the reactions were really interesting. A few friends got together and sponsored one of the girls, and others shared that they wanted to do something but just weren’t in the position to donate monthly. I totally get that. So I spoke to Sarah and asked if there was something we could do, something to bring joy? And there was this:

The girls love getting mail. It brings them such happiness. They love little stickers and beautiful pictures and little letters. So we thought we could do a little happy mail project to the girls at Rafiki Mwema.

IMG_0007Letters for my Rafiki // Letters for my friend

If you’ve got kids, or want to do it yourself, you could write a little letter, add some little stickers and send it on to the house for the girls to receive.

Sarah did tell me a few things – the girls love getting mail but it’s best if you don’t address the mail to any one particular girl, because we don’t want others to feel like their missing out. Just general mail is the best {for everyone}. Stickers are easy for them to share. Also, the mail system isn’t as trustworthy in Kenya as it might be where we live, so sending a parcel is out the the question. Boring, small envelopes are the way to go.

You can address your letters to:

Rafiki Mwema
PO Box 4298
Nakuru, Kenya
East Africa

And as with everything I do {ha!} there’s a hashtag #lettersformyrafiki, so if you put together a little parcel, add a photo to Instagram with the hashtag so we can feel the love that will be traveling around the world, or share a photo on my Facebook wall.

And if you’re in the position to donate a little bit of money, or sponsor one of the girls, you can find out more details here. Or follow along on Facebook for updates.