Hubby and I are heading away in November for a weekend up the coast when our friends get married. We’ve asked Ma to look after Lacey, and she wanted to get a bit of practice under her belt before November rolled around. She has Lacey a lot during the day, but Lacey can be a bit of a nightmare at sleep time so we wanted to make sure she was ready to take her on.
So yesterday Ma came to take Lacey away for two days and one night to my little sister’s house, and to see my little brother too. Hubby had a few days off work, so it was just me and him.
We ate lunch and then sat together on the couch while I worked away. After I while I looked at him and asked, “What on earth did we use to do before Lacey?”
I couldn’t, for the life of me, remember how we used to spend our time before kids. Either could Hubby. Is that crazy?
I know we definitely nursed more hangovers, and had more spare time. Oh, and we definitely slept a whole lot better.
For the mums among us, do you remember what you once did with your time? How has your life changed since having kids?
funny timing for your post. my hubby came home for lunch today…he never comes home during the week. so there we were, just the two of us. i just watched him eat. it was weird having him here during “my” time. we're not very good at it. our girls are 13 and 17…i'd better work on my small talk skills before they have both flown away from the nest!
Oh, you know- have uninterrupted conversations, sew, make art, see bands, eat out, sleep in and have uninterrupted conversations (i know, i said it twice 'cus i miss it most)!
xo em
Oh dear, I'm struggling to remember what we did too!
I do remember having a clean house 99% of the time, and it stayed that way for at least a few days. I remember being much more organised, and getting MUCH more sleep. I miss those things the most.
I think life is so much better now for us (although more sleep will always be a bonus), and I really wouldn't want it any other way. I'm starting to like the chaos.
Jay
Hahahaha we don't have kids (yet) so I find this so funny, I'm sure one day we will say exactly the same thing! For now though we will keep doing…not much lol
We used to sleep and go out and eat at restaurants and see bands and go to trivia nights and see friends and sleep and have sex and do things on a whim and go driving without having to look backwards one time and listen to music loudly and have sex and sleep in and wear no clothes to bed and have showers without being interrupted and stuff.
Can you tell I don't miss it one bit? Nup, not one. OK maybe the sleeping bit, I MISS that.
I wish I knew what we did but to be honest I'm like you and cant remeber. All i know is that im sure i didnt use my time well, as i get much more done now then i use to!
Wonderful post as always 🙂
GOT SLEEP!!
And ate out, AT NIGHT, a lot more, I miss that the most…
We used to sleep, watch movies & stay out to late. But now I feel like my days are more full with exciting little things.
I laughed out loud at your post. REG and I recently had a night away from our two and were exactly the same – what do we do now?
Other then late nights at the local and plenty of sleep I have no idea either.
Some days I miss it!
moments like that we would have been having sex on the couch 😛
Well I think we used to be a lot more selfish and maybe not so great at time management (didn't have to be!). I know I used to sleep a whole lot better (and more). I also know that we didn't appreciate it as much as we should have! 🙂 My hubby and I went to Melbourne for one night for a 'babymoon' before our 3rd entered the world and left my two kids with my folks. We went out to a fancy restaurant and didn't talk the whole time because we were just happy to be able to eat a whole meal uninterrupted! I missed them though, but the short break was lurvely!
Just to add to my previous post…
I used to go to the toilet in peace!
And eat my WHOLE meal without having to share with a small person who either spits it back at me or gives it to the dog.
And phone calls are a whole new mode of multi-tasking! I guarantee every time I'm on the phone, a small person has to have/do something that requires my help. Either that or she has to “say hello” to whoever it is, even if it's the Tax Office person or some other total stranger.
Ah, the joys…
Jay
Looking back we actually didnt do much: watched movies and telly, had dinners out and slept in. I feel like I'm much more organized now and get heaps more stuff done every day. I'm still home with my son so I have started sewing and have been able to do crafty stuff that used only dreamed about when I was at full time work. Since having a baby I realized how important “me time” is.
yes, anything uninterrupted! we used to do a whole lot of nothing. But i dont mind now so much, wouldn't a thing. xx
I know we used to go out a whole lot more, and hence have lazy days following the going out. But I also remember I used to just sit in the sun and read a book for the day – cover to cover. Just heaven!
I know.. I ask myself the same question all the time (we have a little girl just a few months older than Lacey)..
It's crazy!
I also laugh (to myself) when friends without kids tell me they are busy.. I just think 'just wait.. you have nooo idea what busy means'.
We used to think that we were so busy, but kids are a 24 hour job on top of everything else you do! Although, no parent would change it for the world..
Ah, the age old question. Hubby and I often talk about life pre-kidlets… actually hubby romanticises alot about it. I'm a little more pragmatic.
We used to go to the movies, beach, go running together, go out to dinner, hit the town on Fri night after work, go for weekends away. All good stuff… BUT the little guys have enriched our lives so much. They make us better people, not that we were bad before, just a bit more self centred ;o)
We spent all our time together. Then our daughter came along and it took more organising to be able to do the same things together so we tended to do different things. Now she is all grown up we are back doing everything together – I love her to bits but I love doing everything with my husband just as much !!!