hehe Shane is your wife 😉 (immature over here! :P) (also, super sweet)
All fixed. 🙂
we just celebrated 23 years on Sunday, we were very young when we married, i was 19 and he was 18 (i was NOT pregnant). i think it is important to be honest with one another, and to allow each other personal space for hobbies or friendships, we don’t always agree on everything, but the lines of communication are always open.. we faced a lot of attitude in the early years, everyone told us we were too young, and yes, we do mock them now 🙂
Very nice blog! I am sure that this one will get a lot of people thinking. I personally think that a relationship works best when two people understand each other and are committed to making each other happy. And by saying making each other happy, I don’t mean through gifts and such, but through communication, support, love and understanding. It sounds like you and your husband have that!
I love this idea. I am going to have to rewrite ours.
I love this. My wife and I have been together for almost five years, so we haven’t hit the magical seven year stretch yet, but I have to say, it seems to me that the trick is respect and, well… liking each other. I know far too many married couples that don’t really even seem to be friends.
I found the biggest thing for a marriage is trust. Without that it is very hard work
awww your wedding pics are just gorgeous!! I think the key to marriage is just being each other’s friend and always think of the other person first:) 🙂
Thank you and SO true. Putting the other person first, YES!
Sweet post and i love your pictures.
Had to grin when i read that you take Shane as your “wife”. ha ha.
Ah fixed now. 😛
I don’t mean to sound full of myself, but almost all of our friends have told us at some point that they are jealous of our relationship… Even to the point of being nasty sometimes! I don’t know why, I don’t think we are any different to anyone else. My husband is my best friend. I think that is the secret… To be besties hehehe. To be considerate of one another and to communicate well and work as a team.
hubby and I are the same… together for 10, married for 7. Still happily married for the most part, but its making sure complacency doesnt kick in.
I agree with most of the stuff folks said. Friendship with one another, love one another, give one another space to grow. Support and encourage one another in new ventures. Always, always be honest and open, and always listen. Communicate honestly, even when it’s hard to say the things you feel. Give one another time to be. Love one another.
LOVE THIS <3
I love this post. My husband and I celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary this past year. As far as gifts go, we are not big on exchanges either. We chalk this up to the fact that we cherish our relationship EVERY day – both the good and bad. Our relationship is so easy, yet we work at it daily. It is all about the small stuff – heck, if you can’t handle the small stuff, what the heck do you do when the big stuff hits the fan. Cheers to you and Shane – wishing you many more years of martial bliss.
such a lovely post and I love the way Lacey said “I know mum”, they are way too clever at this age hehehehehe……I’ll be married 12 years next month and we have definitely had our challenges, I love that he is my safe person (who I can tell anything too and he wil still love me, good & not so good) we can be complete idiots and just laugh (I love laughing so hard you wanna wee your pants) I love that we dig each other, I think it’s lovely catching him after all these years still checking me out hehehe………we often have commends from people saying we wish we had what you’ve got, truly we don’t have it all together but we choose everyday to love each other………..I just love your posts and girls yous is hot, wow beautiful wedding shots, smooch lisa
Hi Chantelle, Love your post …. I was married for 19.9 years and we were together for nearly 24 years. My husband died of cancer 22 months ago. We were very, very, happy together, even to the end. Our secret is no secret. Respect for each other (the passing of wind and the awful tv shows and the effort put into yuk dinners is all in there), shared experiences (holidays, painting rooms, watching kids sport) and spending at least an hour together each day, just sitting on the couch, reading the paper, leaning against each other. These are the things I remember, miss and treasure. We would have been together forever. I wish you and your husband the most wonderful life together.
Oh Sanja. I am so sorry for your loss. It’s such a big fear for me, and I’m so sorry you had to live it. 🙁
I totally agree on that hour together. We definitely do, thanks to him working shift work and me working from home. Just making the effort to do the grocery shopping together is good for the soul, I think. x
My renewed vows would be something along the lines of;
Dadabulous: I promise to do my husbandly duty and put the garbage out every Thursday night.
Mumabulous: I promise that you shall never have to do another load of washing as long as we both shall live.
You are gorgeous, Chantelle! Love this post : )
Oh wasn’t 2005 a good year for weddings?! Hubby and I celebrated 7 years last month too. Happy Anniversary lovely Chantelle and here’s to another wonderful 7 years 🙂
Love this post Chantelle. I’ve been with my husband for 12 years (!) and I think the secret is to listen to each other. Listen to what they’re not saying, and pretend to be interested when they go on about something you couldn’t care less about. That’s what I like him to do for me anyway 😉
Today is our 18th anniversary! My #fmsphotoaday post was my anniversary ‘card’ to my hubby! We are as happy today as we were the day we were married. 6 years in to our marriage, my husband had a bad motorcycle accident leaving him in a wheelchair. Every day for 3 months when he was in the hospital, I would go sit with him, help him eat dinner, bathe and just enjoy some time together. Patience has been the biggest thing we have learned and I think it’s the key to our happy relationship. I’d love for you to see my photo! @themadwifey
We’ve been married for 12 years this December…a couple of big realisations I have had are that my husband does not have a constant internal monologue like I do, he often really is thinking of nothing, he doesn’t think forward 2 years, 2 days or even 2 hours most of the time…the other is that we should give up trying to understand each other and focus more on being accepting of the people we are. Congratulations on celebrating your 7th anniversary 🙂 xx
I believe a trap many people fall into is generalising and stereotyping. They think of their husband/wife as ‘a woman’ or ‘a man’, and apply all sorts of expectations or frustrations that might not really be relevant to the individual. The other big one is that a lot of people seem to get married for the wedding, not for the marriage itself.
I think date nights for sure, especially when you get busy with kids etc. BTW – Happy Anniversary,
Chantelle I love this post! As a bride-to-be (getting married on New Years Eve!) I adored your re-take on your vows and, as we are writing our own I can imagine there will be some similarities ha ha! I also love the comments everyone has shared I think it’s so important to always make time for one another – real genuine quality time – and remember that regardless of how long you have been together and how well you know one another, there is always more to learn, stories you haven’t yet heard and strengths to be discovered. Thanks for sharing xx PS – What an incredibly stunning bride you are too!
My hubby and I have only been married for six months (together for 4 yrs), so it’s early days for us. His sister gave us some wise words on our wedding day and that was to be each other’s best friend. I think she was spot on.
Your wedding photos are beautiful
I love this! My husband and I have been married for two and a half months (but together almost seven years next May). Even though we’ve been together for so long, I’ve always found that there is always something new that we both learn about each other everyday. It’s those little things in life that makes me love him (and vice versa) more and more!!! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY to you and your hubby!
Stunning photos, you are a gorgeous bride!!
My hubby and I have been married for 8 years, but were together for 8 years before that! We have two gorgeous kids, 3.5 yrs and 2 yrs. Life has been wonderful but has been different in the last 3.5 yrs. We (I) make a point of not going to bed angry with each other, always give each other a kiss goodnight too. I used to hold things in and I guess expect hubby to read my mind, but that just doesn’t work, if I am angry, sad, pissed off we now let each other know, there isn’t enough time for silent treatment and it works. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff!
Gah! I love your pics – so pretty! I think the fact that the hubby and I are best friends helps massively, we have so much in common yet just enough differences to give us something to talk about – other people think that we are weird for how much time we spend together (we travel and work together) but it really works for us – you have to be able to laugh 🙂
Happy Anniversary Chantelle! Stunning pics! I honestly think a happy relationship relies a lot on loving that person so deeply you still love them at their worst. So even when my husband has the man flu, or I am stressed and snappy about work, we are still there for each other. As the years go by, I’ve come to realise there are ups and downs throughout a marriage and sticking through the ‘down’ periods make the ‘up’ times that much sweeter.
Happy Anniversary! Those are some amazing pictures and it seems you have an amazing relationship 🙂
Happy anniversary guys!
We’ve been with our husbies for a very similar amount of time, only I’ve been married just under 3 years {mine took a little longer to decide I was the one!} 😉
As for the secret? I believe in marrying your best friend, & plenty of freedom.
I don’t mean freedom like … an open relationship, or lots of time away from each other, I mean … not needing to have too many ‘rules’, because you have enough respect for each other that you don’t need rules.
I love my marriage. So much.
We believe in love, & freedom, & I just feel like we’re a lot happier than a lot of our friends & their marriages {by comparison}.
That sounds awful, I know.
But we know a lot of people in incredibly miserable unions,
So I am grateful for mine x
Congrats on the anniversary!
My husband and I recently celebrated 12 years of marriage (and 3 kids) and we have had our ups and downs, but our marriage is stronger now than it’s ever been.
Different things work for different people, but affection is a biggie for us, we feel connected when we touch. And spooning, we love spooning and talking.
I also realised this year that the more ok you are with yourself the more ok your relationship is.
Such a sweet photo of you guys! Happy Anniversary 🙂 I like what you wrote for your husband, maybe i should include that to my vows in the future.
This is beautiful, thank you for sharing. I also love the question…
I am a child of several divorces… 7 to be exact, and through those years of watching my parents enter into relationships, then get married, then get divorced, has left me with many questions, and even more failed answers as to what makes a good relationship.
It was not until I met my boyfriend Evan, did I understand what two people were capable of together. Our easy going and laid back relationship gave me time and perspective to not only review my parents failed marriages, but also my own past relationships, which always ended in dramatic tragedy. My first question to myself was “what do I do different now?” It was then that it hit me, that simply being aware of that, that simple desire to BE better for someone else, was the first step at a happy relationship.
Since that moment, I have grown as a person and as a girlfriend, and I will someday use that same thought to become a better wife. So often people get wrapped up into “love” that they forget how many people are in this world and how important a good match is. We are all different, with different thoughts, ideals, and outlooks, especially on what love is and how we feel it and show it.
So what makes it work? Simply being aware that it IS working or it ISNT.
Its a hard question to ask yourself and your significant other, its even harder when the answer is not what you want. We all deserve happiness and I think a lot of folks forget that when they are in a less than ideal relationship.
Every day I wake up, and I make the decision to LOVE my boyfriend with my whole heart, to not get angry over silly things ( I fail sometimes), to give him what I think he needs, and to look past anything I see as a flaw and love it anyway. Every day, Evan makes that same choice about me. We are happier than most couples I know. We did get lucky with one another, there is no doubt about that, but we work at it too. Both of us put in our patience, hours, and emotions into one another because we know that without the other, we would be lost.
We may not be married, but we have a lifetime for that. We still have the respect, commitment, and the desire for one another that needs to be the base for every good relationship. We do date nights every once in a while, but we both prefer a home cooked meal and watching Star Trek in our living room. We celebrate milestones in our own way, we call each other “babe” way too often, and the cutest thing we do is talk over one another to our friends. I know that all of these things are what make “Holli and Evan” Heaven.
I guess what I am trying to say is get to know yourself, your strengths, weaknesses and what you can offer that other person. Then get to know the same about them. If they are right for you, they will do the same. But it does not end there, every day is a struggle, but as a couple, especially a married one, you are a TEAM. For your children, for your friends, for each other. Try not to take it for advantage, but instead, see the advantage in two sets of eyes vs. one. Love is not easy, but it can work, IF you can learn how to love and be loved with the one other person that matters. Its not about your past… or your parent’s past… or your partners. Its about what makes you happy, what makes them happy, and how to combine that into something that makes everyone wonder what you did right.
Thank you for the insightful question… and for tolerating my long response. : ) Good luck everyone! Love is a journey… so don’t stop believin…
You. Are. Gorgeous! And that man of yours is a keeper!!
After being married for 22 years and going through a divorce and now twelve years into my second marriage … a completely different experience … I’ve learned you have to trust but more importantly there has to be unconditional love and friendship.
With that said … I happily sit back while my NY has control of the remote, he always drives while I try hard not to be a back seat driver, I try to be interested in every single current event on the planet, and I cook asparagus for him and I don’t make faces when he eats caviar or escargot. xoxo
Wonderful pictures Chantelle. I do believe that its not enough to be in love with each other, you have to be best friends too. At least it is the secret of my marriage I think. We are married for six years, but together for ten years now.
All the best for the two of you 🙂
Gorgeous Post Chantelle, I have been with my partner for 16 years we have 3 beautiful children but alas we are not married. We were a holiday romance that stretched from 2 weeks to 3 months, then he went back to Australia and I promply gave up everything and followed for 12 months, then back to Scotland for 18 months, we spent all our money phone bills and stamps (before email, sms, cheap phone calls) we spoke and wrote to each other everyday while we were apart (18 months) we poured our lives into those letters. Then I packed up my life and shipped myself over to Australia. Money has always been needed elsewhere – one day we will do it, but we are happy and in love, we just knew it was meant to be.
Laugh + lots of good sex = the perfect marriage. And if your talented, you can do both at once!
hehe Shane is your wife 😉 (immature over here! :P) (also, super sweet)
All fixed. 🙂
we just celebrated 23 years on Sunday, we were very young when we married, i was 19 and he was 18 (i was NOT pregnant). i think it is important to be honest with one another, and to allow each other personal space for hobbies or friendships, we don’t always agree on everything, but the lines of communication are always open.. we faced a lot of attitude in the early years, everyone told us we were too young, and yes, we do mock them now 🙂
Very nice blog! I am sure that this one will get a lot of people thinking. I personally think that a relationship works best when two people understand each other and are committed to making each other happy. And by saying making each other happy, I don’t mean through gifts and such, but through communication, support, love and understanding. It sounds like you and your husband have that!
I love this idea. I am going to have to rewrite ours.
I love this. My wife and I have been together for almost five years, so we haven’t hit the magical seven year stretch yet, but I have to say, it seems to me that the trick is respect and, well… liking each other. I know far too many married couples that don’t really even seem to be friends.
I found the biggest thing for a marriage is trust. Without that it is very hard work
awww your wedding pics are just gorgeous!! I think the key to marriage is just being each other’s friend and always think of the other person first:) 🙂
Thank you and SO true. Putting the other person first, YES!
Sweet post and i love your pictures.
Had to grin when i read that you take Shane as your “wife”. ha ha.
Ah fixed now. 😛
I don’t mean to sound full of myself, but almost all of our friends have told us at some point that they are jealous of our relationship… Even to the point of being nasty sometimes! I don’t know why, I don’t think we are any different to anyone else. My husband is my best friend. I think that is the secret… To be besties hehehe. To be considerate of one another and to communicate well and work as a team.
hubby and I are the same… together for 10, married for 7. Still happily married for the most part, but its making sure complacency doesnt kick in.
I agree with most of the stuff folks said. Friendship with one another, love one another, give one another space to grow. Support and encourage one another in new ventures. Always, always be honest and open, and always listen. Communicate honestly, even when it’s hard to say the things you feel. Give one another time to be. Love one another.
LOVE THIS <3
I love this post. My husband and I celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary this past year. As far as gifts go, we are not big on exchanges either. We chalk this up to the fact that we cherish our relationship EVERY day – both the good and bad. Our relationship is so easy, yet we work at it daily. It is all about the small stuff – heck, if you can’t handle the small stuff, what the heck do you do when the big stuff hits the fan. Cheers to you and Shane – wishing you many more years of martial bliss.
such a lovely post and I love the way Lacey said “I know mum”, they are way too clever at this age hehehehehe……I’ll be married 12 years next month and we have definitely had our challenges, I love that he is my safe person (who I can tell anything too and he wil still love me, good & not so good) we can be complete idiots and just laugh (I love laughing so hard you wanna wee your pants) I love that we dig each other, I think it’s lovely catching him after all these years still checking me out hehehe………we often have commends from people saying we wish we had what you’ve got, truly we don’t have it all together but we choose everyday to love each other………..I just love your posts and girls yous is hot, wow beautiful wedding shots, smooch lisa
Hi Chantelle, Love your post …. I was married for 19.9 years and we were together for nearly 24 years. My husband died of cancer 22 months ago. We were very, very, happy together, even to the end. Our secret is no secret. Respect for each other (the passing of wind and the awful tv shows and the effort put into yuk dinners is all in there), shared experiences (holidays, painting rooms, watching kids sport) and spending at least an hour together each day, just sitting on the couch, reading the paper, leaning against each other. These are the things I remember, miss and treasure. We would have been together forever. I wish you and your husband the most wonderful life together.
Oh Sanja. I am so sorry for your loss. It’s such a big fear for me, and I’m so sorry you had to live it. 🙁
I totally agree on that hour together. We definitely do, thanks to him working shift work and me working from home. Just making the effort to do the grocery shopping together is good for the soul, I think. x
My renewed vows would be something along the lines of;
Dadabulous: I promise to do my husbandly duty and put the garbage out every Thursday night.
Mumabulous: I promise that you shall never have to do another load of washing as long as we both shall live.
You are gorgeous, Chantelle! Love this post : )
Oh wasn’t 2005 a good year for weddings?! Hubby and I celebrated 7 years last month too. Happy Anniversary lovely Chantelle and here’s to another wonderful 7 years 🙂
Love this post Chantelle. I’ve been with my husband for 12 years (!) and I think the secret is to listen to each other. Listen to what they’re not saying, and pretend to be interested when they go on about something you couldn’t care less about. That’s what I like him to do for me anyway 😉
Today is our 18th anniversary! My #fmsphotoaday post was my anniversary ‘card’ to my hubby! We are as happy today as we were the day we were married. 6 years in to our marriage, my husband had a bad motorcycle accident leaving him in a wheelchair. Every day for 3 months when he was in the hospital, I would go sit with him, help him eat dinner, bathe and just enjoy some time together. Patience has been the biggest thing we have learned and I think it’s the key to our happy relationship. I’d love for you to see my photo! @themadwifey
We’ve been married for 12 years this December…a couple of big realisations I have had are that my husband does not have a constant internal monologue like I do, he often really is thinking of nothing, he doesn’t think forward 2 years, 2 days or even 2 hours most of the time…the other is that we should give up trying to understand each other and focus more on being accepting of the people we are. Congratulations on celebrating your 7th anniversary 🙂 xx
I believe a trap many people fall into is generalising and stereotyping. They think of their husband/wife as ‘a woman’ or ‘a man’, and apply all sorts of expectations or frustrations that might not really be relevant to the individual. The other big one is that a lot of people seem to get married for the wedding, not for the marriage itself.
I think date nights for sure, especially when you get busy with kids etc. BTW – Happy Anniversary,
Chantelle I love this post! As a bride-to-be (getting married on New Years Eve!) I adored your re-take on your vows and, as we are writing our own I can imagine there will be some similarities ha ha! I also love the comments everyone has shared I think it’s so important to always make time for one another – real genuine quality time – and remember that regardless of how long you have been together and how well you know one another, there is always more to learn, stories you haven’t yet heard and strengths to be discovered. Thanks for sharing xx PS – What an incredibly stunning bride you are too!
My hubby and I have only been married for six months (together for 4 yrs), so it’s early days for us. His sister gave us some wise words on our wedding day and that was to be each other’s best friend. I think she was spot on.
Your wedding photos are beautiful
I love this! My husband and I have been married for two and a half months (but together almost seven years next May). Even though we’ve been together for so long, I’ve always found that there is always something new that we both learn about each other everyday. It’s those little things in life that makes me love him (and vice versa) more and more!!! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY to you and your hubby!
Stunning photos, you are a gorgeous bride!!
My hubby and I have been married for 8 years, but were together for 8 years before that! We have two gorgeous kids, 3.5 yrs and 2 yrs. Life has been wonderful but has been different in the last 3.5 yrs. We (I) make a point of not going to bed angry with each other, always give each other a kiss goodnight too. I used to hold things in and I guess expect hubby to read my mind, but that just doesn’t work, if I am angry, sad, pissed off we now let each other know, there isn’t enough time for silent treatment and it works. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff!
Gah! I love your pics – so pretty! I think the fact that the hubby and I are best friends helps massively, we have so much in common yet just enough differences to give us something to talk about – other people think that we are weird for how much time we spend together (we travel and work together) but it really works for us – you have to be able to laugh 🙂
Happy Anniversary Chantelle! Stunning pics! I honestly think a happy relationship relies a lot on loving that person so deeply you still love them at their worst. So even when my husband has the man flu, or I am stressed and snappy about work, we are still there for each other. As the years go by, I’ve come to realise there are ups and downs throughout a marriage and sticking through the ‘down’ periods make the ‘up’ times that much sweeter.
Happy Anniversary! Those are some amazing pictures and it seems you have an amazing relationship 🙂
Happy anniversary guys!
We’ve been with our husbies for a very similar amount of time, only I’ve been married just under 3 years {mine took a little longer to decide I was the one!} 😉
As for the secret? I believe in marrying your best friend, & plenty of freedom.
I don’t mean freedom like … an open relationship, or lots of time away from each other, I mean … not needing to have too many ‘rules’, because you have enough respect for each other that you don’t need rules.
I love my marriage. So much.
We believe in love, & freedom, & I just feel like we’re a lot happier than a lot of our friends & their marriages {by comparison}.
That sounds awful, I know.
But we know a lot of people in incredibly miserable unions,
So I am grateful for mine x
Congrats on the anniversary!
My husband and I recently celebrated 12 years of marriage (and 3 kids) and we have had our ups and downs, but our marriage is stronger now than it’s ever been.
Different things work for different people, but affection is a biggie for us, we feel connected when we touch. And spooning, we love spooning and talking.
I also realised this year that the more ok you are with yourself the more ok your relationship is.
Such a sweet photo of you guys! Happy Anniversary 🙂 I like what you wrote for your husband, maybe i should include that to my vows in the future.
This is beautiful, thank you for sharing. I also love the question…
I am a child of several divorces… 7 to be exact, and through those years of watching my parents enter into relationships, then get married, then get divorced, has left me with many questions, and even more failed answers as to what makes a good relationship.
It was not until I met my boyfriend Evan, did I understand what two people were capable of together. Our easy going and laid back relationship gave me time and perspective to not only review my parents failed marriages, but also my own past relationships, which always ended in dramatic tragedy. My first question to myself was “what do I do different now?” It was then that it hit me, that simply being aware of that, that simple desire to BE better for someone else, was the first step at a happy relationship.
Since that moment, I have grown as a person and as a girlfriend, and I will someday use that same thought to become a better wife. So often people get wrapped up into “love” that they forget how many people are in this world and how important a good match is. We are all different, with different thoughts, ideals, and outlooks, especially on what love is and how we feel it and show it.
So what makes it work? Simply being aware that it IS working or it ISNT.
Its a hard question to ask yourself and your significant other, its even harder when the answer is not what you want. We all deserve happiness and I think a lot of folks forget that when they are in a less than ideal relationship.
Every day I wake up, and I make the decision to LOVE my boyfriend with my whole heart, to not get angry over silly things ( I fail sometimes), to give him what I think he needs, and to look past anything I see as a flaw and love it anyway. Every day, Evan makes that same choice about me. We are happier than most couples I know. We did get lucky with one another, there is no doubt about that, but we work at it too. Both of us put in our patience, hours, and emotions into one another because we know that without the other, we would be lost.
We may not be married, but we have a lifetime for that. We still have the respect, commitment, and the desire for one another that needs to be the base for every good relationship. We do date nights every once in a while, but we both prefer a home cooked meal and watching Star Trek in our living room. We celebrate milestones in our own way, we call each other “babe” way too often, and the cutest thing we do is talk over one another to our friends. I know that all of these things are what make “Holli and Evan” Heaven.
I guess what I am trying to say is get to know yourself, your strengths, weaknesses and what you can offer that other person. Then get to know the same about them. If they are right for you, they will do the same. But it does not end there, every day is a struggle, but as a couple, especially a married one, you are a TEAM. For your children, for your friends, for each other. Try not to take it for advantage, but instead, see the advantage in two sets of eyes vs. one. Love is not easy, but it can work, IF you can learn how to love and be loved with the one other person that matters. Its not about your past… or your parent’s past… or your partners. Its about what makes you happy, what makes them happy, and how to combine that into something that makes everyone wonder what you did right.
Thank you for the insightful question… and for tolerating my long response. : ) Good luck everyone! Love is a journey… so don’t stop believin…
You. Are. Gorgeous! And that man of yours is a keeper!!
After being married for 22 years and going through a divorce and now twelve years into my second marriage … a completely different experience … I’ve learned you have to trust but more importantly there has to be unconditional love and friendship.
With that said … I happily sit back while my NY has control of the remote, he always drives while I try hard not to be a back seat driver, I try to be interested in every single current event on the planet, and I cook asparagus for him and I don’t make faces when he eats caviar or escargot. xoxo
Wonderful pictures Chantelle. I do believe that its not enough to be in love with each other, you have to be best friends too. At least it is the secret of my marriage I think. We are married for six years, but together for ten years now.
All the best for the two of you 🙂
Gorgeous Post Chantelle, I have been with my partner for 16 years we have 3 beautiful children but alas we are not married. We were a holiday romance that stretched from 2 weeks to 3 months, then he went back to Australia and I promply gave up everything and followed for 12 months, then back to Scotland for 18 months, we spent all our money phone bills and stamps (before email, sms, cheap phone calls) we spoke and wrote to each other everyday while we were apart (18 months) we poured our lives into those letters. Then I packed up my life and shipped myself over to Australia. Money has always been needed elsewhere – one day we will do it, but we are happy and in love, we just knew it was meant to be.
Laugh + lots of good sex = the perfect marriage. And if your talented, you can do both at once!