hen I wrote about Sex and the City last week I mentioned that there were two parts of the movie that really resonated with me. This is one of them. If you haven’t seen the movie yet, and plan on doing so soon… perhaps you’ll like to skip away now {avoiding any spoilers} and return when you’ve watched it.
The first scene occurs in the kitchen. Charlotte has over committed herself by baking what seems like hundreds of cupcakes for her daughter’s class. She’s up to her eyeballs in icing and batter, the baby is screaming {which I found really, really disturbing} and she has reached her boiling point. You know when you’re sailing along and you think you’re doing okay as this motherhood gig, you’ve got it almost sorted. And then… you haven’t. She whisks herself into the pantry for a mere moment and cries. Big, fat, ugly sobs.
Hands up if you’ve been there?
The second scene happens in a bar with Miranda and Charlotte. You can refresh your memory by watching the clip above. It doesn’t show it all, just part… but you get the picture.
I think it should be almost compulsory for mothers to have a night like these at least every six months. Just to get it all out. It doesn’t make us bad mamas for regurgitating those words about how hard it is, how consuming motherhood can be and just how much we need a break. We’re human too. And sometimes motherhood isn’t all rainbows, and butterflies. It just isn’t. And of course we wouldn’t swap motherhood for the world, and because we have moments that we want to lock ourselves in the pantry and sob, it doesn’t mean we love them any less. Because we love them more than enough to come back out, wrap our arms around them and smother them in kisses.
So take a sip, or take a deep breathe… and know… that you’re not alone.
Have you ever had a motherhood manic type moment?
I have yet to get to see the movies, but I agree on both bits.
My brother has given his wife (upon just having had their 2nd baby) a gift of one day off a month to take a friend off for the day to a local spa.
That is what ALL mothers should get given upon the birth of a child.
The take a sip moment resonated with me, in fact it was one of the highlights of the movie – when they 'kept it real' only issue being the comment 'how do people WITHOUT help do it?'.. I was like 'umm I do OK thanks!' lol.
I related. Sort of. I feel like Charlotte is a STAY AT HOME mommy. With a FULL TIME nanny. Now, darn it, if I was a stay at home mommy with a full time nanny I feel like my life would be WAY less stressful. So in a way, I kind of think what she is saying is a slap in the face to all the moms that stay home full time without a nanny.
Maybe it is just me though. I don't know…
I loved the movie because it was a fun night out with my girlfriends.
It must be the day for SATC2 discussions….I also blogged about my thoughts on the movie 🙂
Oh yes….I've had some Mummy Manic Moments 🙂 I could really relate to Charlotte's scenes ;o) Nice to know that not everyone's lives are perfect lol. I love Motherhood more than ANYTHING…but I think it would be fake to pretend its not the HARDEST thing you will ever do in your life 🙂 I love it though….the ups & downs! Thank god for girlfriends who we can vent to and laugh with ;o)
xo.
Haven't seen the movie (don't know if I want too spoil my SATC days with a let down?) but oh my god, watching this clip, reading your words – um, hello – both hands are in the air!!! 🙂 Now I cannot wait for our move home to be able to have 'sip' nights with my best girlfriends! xo
I'm not a mother yet and I felt the same about both pieces. I really felt a mothers pain watching it. I found the movie to have so many bits that you could REALLY relate to.
It annoyed me a bit. I'd prefer to think that I can 'take a sip' most days. I'm definitely not one of those people who thinks there is merit in sucking it all up and pretending life is fabulous. I'm in love with motherhood warts and all so that means I get to talk about the rough stuff whenever I want. We all should.
Absolutely. I haven't seen the movie, but I can imagine. If you swap “cupcakes” with “dinner” and “pantry” with “bathroom” you would have me, just last week. It is hard, hard work, no-one can tell you just how much it tests you. When it gets really bad, and it's too late to call Mum, I go and sit outside and tell our dog all about it (I know how tragic this sounds), and use every foul word I have bottled up inside. Then I dry the tears and get it together and go back in and carry on. Sometimes, it feels like you're hanging on by your fingernails. IT is hard. But it's so, so worth it.
ok I definitely need to see this movie then! wow I never thought I'd have moments when my little darlings just drive me up the wall and nothing I do is right – especially when little twins egg each other on!
love that clip! been there, done that!
Corrie;)
oh i just loved the miranda and charlotte drinking scene so much… im pretty sure every mum could relate to that – loving your child so much it hurts but sometimes feeling like its harder than you ever imagined!
woman can be so tough on themselves and so tough on one another too or atleast that is what i found when audrey was tiny! i hope that scene brings home the need to be real… to let our guards down with other mothers… especially in the beginning when life can be hard and so many mums walk around saying how perfect everything is. wouldnt it be so great to say how not perfect it is sometimes too?
it so important to have a friend you can say those things to sometimes and not feel judged… i have friends i could say anything too and im sure most of us do but the world would be a better place if we could show that same compassion and lack of judgement to the mum we see in the supermarket with the screaming child and not just our dear friends… thats what i took from the scene and it was the best part in the movie!
thanks telle for being one of the friends who i can 'take a sip' with and let it all out – you too bee! rowe xxx
Telle – you read my mind. I am yet to see the movie but saw the clip last week on The View… just yesterday I was searching you tube trying to find it as I was going to blog about it too. In fact I still may.
Just last week I was the mum in the pantry. And I thought I was the only one?
I could so relate to that cupcake drama-cue me trying to make a wedding cake for a relative one year. Not recommended! 🙁
Funny, I just got carried away blogging about this scene too, then came here and find this.. So, so know the feelings x
beautifully said. just what i needed to read this morning! 🙂
LOL, I have to post my SATC2 thoughts asap on my blog too. Just saw it over the weekend – yep, Rose crying was making me feel antsy
I very much agree with a regular mum's getaway just to let it all out. We all need it in some degree!
Looks like you've beaten a lot of us mummy bloggers to the punch on this one (of course you would you're always so darn organised and blogeriffic).
I didn't comment last week because I was going to blog about SATC myself but I still haven't gotten my act together. These scenes were the redeeming moments of the movie for me – I guess because I could relate so well.
I don't even drink and some days I could drink the whole damn bottle!