I ran into a friend the other day as I was putting petrol in my car. I haven’t seen her in a while and she asked how everything was going.
I had a hard night the night before and looked like shit. Pure and simple. I told her that I hadn’t had a good nights sleep since before I was pregnant and starting to feel it.
She has had twins plus a singleton so knows how that is.
She asked me, as we were both pumping fuel: Do you have an evil sister?
Me: Evil sister? Not so much, but I do have a sister. Two actually.
She then went on to explain when she was trying to get rid of the dummies with the twins she went out for the night and let her sister take over. It was easier for the twins to do it without Mum and Dad around.
I then got what she meant by the evil sister question.
Me: Ooooh. Evil sister. Yeah, I can do that. I’ve never thought of that before.
I thought about it for a bit, and then put it to the back of my mind. I needed to be part of operation. I couldn’t leave my little sister to deal with it all. Could I?
I went back to Borders and re-read that book about sleeping. I worked out a plan. I was all set to go.
I went and talked to a nurse/midwife to ask what she thought I should do too. Should I be giving up breastfeeding as well? What was her advice? I didn’t mention the evil sister option.
She said not to give up breastfeeding. I kinda expected that. Midwives love breastfeeding. I am happy to keep going on, as long as it doesn’t hinder my operation sleep.
She asked me: Can you ship her off to Grandma’s for the nights?
Me: Hmmm. Yeah. But I also have a {evil} sister that can come and stay and do it.
She was all for it: I think you really need to stay away for a few nights. Ideally, I’d say a week. This is a pretty extreme case, in my opinion. If you stay there, she will smell you, sense you and it will be just like teasing her. Staying away is the best option.
I started fretting straight away, wanting to cry. I think she could sense it. I thanked her for her time and her advice. She wished me the best of luck.
As I was leaving she said to me: Remember…. she won’t remember this, only you will. Just remember that.
I feel sick now at the thought of leaving her, but I spoke to my sister (and roped in my Mum as well). They are dying to help me out. All my family are. My older sister has offered to pay for the lady that wrote the book to come and stay. They just want me to get some decent sleep, and fast.
So this weekend is operation sleep. I hope I can report back with success. I am not sure which route we’ll take yet. I have to wrap my weary head around it all. xx
Sleep on it.
Best wishes to you.
Good luck with the sleep operatives.
Wishing you lots of luck 🙂
Remember the first night will be the hardest.. it gets better from there
xoxo
Good luck ‘Telle. The first night is def the hardest, my sleep deprivation wasn’t nearly as bad as yours but once Emma got over her night wakefulness I can’t believe how much better my world looked.
I know you’ll both come through the other side.
Good luck!
I’m sure it’ll be hard to leave her, but it’ll be worth it for you in the long run.
All the best with it. It will all be worth it in the end. I’ve learned that when you have kids and people offer to help you, take them up on it.
Chantelle
Telle I really hope that you manage to find some success with all of this. I too am at the end of my rope (3+ years of no sleep is me OUT) and have started reading and figured she is almost 12 months old now is as good of a time as any….
Let’s hope that I am strong enough to make it work.
best of luck!
i hope it works for you. i wish i had some family around that could help me with a similar plan!
Good luck with it Telle. I really hope you get some sleep. xxx
Chantelle, can we be friends? Please? I read your post on the Drs visist and I swear we see the same Dr (yet mines here in Australia). I’ve seen you post on Sheye’s blog and had to check out your blog too and I love it to pieces:) *you rock*
Vanessa x:)
Oh, mine doesn’t have the number thing happening but I bet he’d love to:)
Hi Chantelle, i saw your comment on my blog ‘heading towards slim’ or is it ‘slimmer and slimmer’ can’t remember, but wanted to thank you for the comment you left me. Your blog is very interesting and i love the way you’ve put photos on there.Again, thanks for your comments, Bec
Big hugs my dear.xx
I say operation evil sister, and as the midwife said….only you will remember it. Follow your heart and most importantly look after yourself. 🙂
Thank you everyone for your support.
I have been feeling a bit blah this week thinking about it. I know she’ll be in great hands, they love her as much as I do.
And through Nannying I know that she will be just fine.
It’s just that Mother’s Guilt that always lingers so near.
Thank you all. xx
Good luck again… Last night I started mine at 4am! I didn’t have time to tell my husband though, as I only made up my mind at 3.59am so he was wondering why I had the hall light on with our bedroom door open.
I had just fed him at 2.30am so it was time.
I didn’t feed this time I just patted…..sooooo nearly started feeding at 4.08am but kept patting for 22 mins like the book said and he went to sleep!!
I oh my god I won, I won – well this sleep anyway!!!!
Aww, Telle! *hugs*
I think Carolyn had somebody come and stay to help her with Miss T?!
xoxo
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