It’s so hard getting mentally caught up with our massive to do lists and all the pressure we put on ourselves. I’m heading back to work in one week after a year of maternity leave (???) and I had all these things I wanted to get done in that time. But I’ve spent a wonderful year spending basically every of my daughters waking seconds with her so really, how badly could I have done with my time off?
Thank you. Needed to hear this today!
As I was reading this post, before I even got to the bit about all the awesome things you had done, I was mentally saying to the screen, “but Telle, what about all the things you have done?” And not just the things you did that day, but all the awesome you did on the days before that too. You’re doing awesome PLUS! High five to you!
My favourite saying at the moment is: “There’s always something.” And there is.
If we tried to pack stuff into every hour of every day, there would always be “something”.
You’re an amazing mum and I really do admire all that you do and have achieved. It’s pretty bloody amazing! xx
I totally, and completely get you- there will always be things left unfinished or undone- that’s the reality of life. And I guarantee you even if you got all of your to-do list done (the big one that is never ending) something else would crop up! It sounds like you had a pretty epic day yesterday. I am trying to be a little bit zen about my to do list- it’s coming up to the busiest time of the year for my family and I, and I know I’m not doing half of what I need to be each day- if I dwell on it too much I’ll have a panic attack so I’m trying to just let it go…. we’ll see how that works out! 🙂
Oh, this is good to read! I do the same thing when I’m putting Claudia to sleep. I have managed to convince myself that this time is good. This is quiet time, no phone, no television, nothing to cloud my aggressive thought process and list making. Next time I am in there, I am going to think of everything I have done, the fun we have had, the boxes I have ticked, the difference that will make. Thank you.
Chantelle, don’t stress about what you haven’t done each day – be thankful for what you have achieved each day and for your beautiful daughters and hubby! We are all in awe of you and your energy and foresight in creating FMS and Photo a Day. Just keep doing what you’re doing – you’re wonderful!!! Gxxx
There’ll always be the incomplete, the not started, the should have dones…..it all doesn’t matter in our kids eyes (except if that ;should have done’ was the note for them to go on that excursion that was due back last week lol !!!)
A whiteboard message!…memories in the making right there.
Adventures!
Bedtime stories!
You’re doing enough, raising two girls so beautifully.
You’re enough…and you do plenty ❤️
Congrats on your new app. X
I just cannot get over the fact you cooked every recipe in your cookbook in a day!! With your children!! I’m proud of myself if I can cook one recipe in a day. You are truly amazing!
Reading this made me think of a technique my sister learnt during a stint in rehab after suffering from a nervous breakdown. If we eat junk food all day every day, we feel awful. Similarly if we feed our minds a constant stream of negative morsels, we will feel awful. So here’s the tool: at night when you put your head on your pillow (or are sitting patting your daughter to sleep) think of three things you did that day that made you laugh or feel happy, proud or positive.
I am the same. Only for me its not patting a small one to sleep. Its Waiting in the car for mr 16 to finsh work.
I took 12 months off uni to set my mums house including some pretty major renos, so my family could move in to care for her as she has dementia.
Well we are now week 3 of uni and my to do list is stilll a mile long. Still renoing, looking after 2 houses. My family, mum, running a small business with my husband. Yes i do drop balls all the time, but I Tell myself i am doing all this myself with no other family help. But i am doing my best.
Finally clearing out my inbox and read this post. Exactly what I needed to read today. I’ve been getting caught up in the haven’ts a lot lately and it’s time to stop. Thank you for reminding me x
I do this too, Chantelle!! And then I berate myself for not being able to just be in the moment and soak up the gorgeous sleeping bubba beside me, and not think about my ‘haven’t list’!! We mumma’s are so hard on ourselves sometimes. You’re right, we ought to cut ourselves some slack! Sending sunshine your way, pretty lady! xx
It’s so hard getting mentally caught up with our massive to do lists and all the pressure we put on ourselves. I’m heading back to work in one week after a year of maternity leave (???) and I had all these things I wanted to get done in that time. But I’ve spent a wonderful year spending basically every of my daughters waking seconds with her so really, how badly could I have done with my time off?
Thank you. Needed to hear this today!
As I was reading this post, before I even got to the bit about all the awesome things you had done, I was mentally saying to the screen, “but Telle, what about all the things you have done?” And not just the things you did that day, but all the awesome you did on the days before that too. You’re doing awesome PLUS! High five to you!
My favourite saying at the moment is: “There’s always something.” And there is.
If we tried to pack stuff into every hour of every day, there would always be “something”.
You’re an amazing mum and I really do admire all that you do and have achieved. It’s pretty bloody amazing! xx
I totally, and completely get you- there will always be things left unfinished or undone- that’s the reality of life. And I guarantee you even if you got all of your to-do list done (the big one that is never ending) something else would crop up! It sounds like you had a pretty epic day yesterday. I am trying to be a little bit zen about my to do list- it’s coming up to the busiest time of the year for my family and I, and I know I’m not doing half of what I need to be each day- if I dwell on it too much I’ll have a panic attack so I’m trying to just let it go…. we’ll see how that works out! 🙂
Oh, this is good to read! I do the same thing when I’m putting Claudia to sleep. I have managed to convince myself that this time is good. This is quiet time, no phone, no television, nothing to cloud my aggressive thought process and list making. Next time I am in there, I am going to think of everything I have done, the fun we have had, the boxes I have ticked, the difference that will make. Thank you.
Chantelle, don’t stress about what you haven’t done each day – be thankful for what you have achieved each day and for your beautiful daughters and hubby! We are all in awe of you and your energy and foresight in creating FMS and Photo a Day. Just keep doing what you’re doing – you’re wonderful!!! Gxxx
There’ll always be the incomplete, the not started, the should have dones…..it all doesn’t matter in our kids eyes (except if that ;should have done’ was the note for them to go on that excursion that was due back last week lol !!!)
A whiteboard message!…memories in the making right there.
Adventures!
Bedtime stories!
You’re doing enough, raising two girls so beautifully.
You’re enough…and you do plenty ❤️
Congrats on your new app. X
I just cannot get over the fact you cooked every recipe in your cookbook in a day!! With your children!! I’m proud of myself if I can cook one recipe in a day. You are truly amazing!
Reading this made me think of a technique my sister learnt during a stint in rehab after suffering from a nervous breakdown. If we eat junk food all day every day, we feel awful. Similarly if we feed our minds a constant stream of negative morsels, we will feel awful. So here’s the tool: at night when you put your head on your pillow (or are sitting patting your daughter to sleep) think of three things you did that day that made you laugh or feel happy, proud or positive.
I am the same. Only for me its not patting a small one to sleep. Its Waiting in the car for mr 16 to finsh work.
I took 12 months off uni to set my mums house including some pretty major renos, so my family could move in to care for her as she has dementia.
Well we are now week 3 of uni and my to do list is stilll a mile long. Still renoing, looking after 2 houses. My family, mum, running a small business with my husband. Yes i do drop balls all the time, but I Tell myself i am doing all this myself with no other family help. But i am doing my best.
Finally clearing out my inbox and read this post. Exactly what I needed to read today. I’ve been getting caught up in the haven’ts a lot lately and it’s time to stop. Thank you for reminding me x
I do this too, Chantelle!! And then I berate myself for not being able to just be in the moment and soak up the gorgeous sleeping bubba beside me, and not think about my ‘haven’t list’!! We mumma’s are so hard on ourselves sometimes. You’re right, we ought to cut ourselves some slack! Sending sunshine your way, pretty lady! xx