ast week one of my favourite bloggers, Smaggle Style, posed a question that had my mind ticking over, Is a kiss forgivable?
When we think about cheating we generally think about sexual encounters, and sordid affairs. So when Smaggle posed this question it left readers divided, and it’s quite difficult to know unless you’ve been there. I wanted to bring the question to you {my readers} and see what you thought.
If your partner kissed someone, could you forgive? Could you forget?
I haven't seen SATC2 but isn't this what happens between Carrie and Aidan? Will be interested to see the answers you get… for me, forgiveable, especially depending on the context, but I'd be wary afterwards.
In my opinion, a kiss is cheating. But it depends on circumstances, I guess.
I probably wouldn't leave my guy if he kissed another girl (unless there were deeper feelings there, in which case I'd be OUTTA THERE ASAP). But boy, oh boy. I would be PISSED. x
Oooh that is a tough one. I think it depends on the circumstances. I'd leam to say unforgivable though.
What about receiving an unwanted kiss? This happened to me in 2002, a co-worker imagined that I was giving him “signs” which I most certainly wasn't & he kissed me… It wasn't just a peck either. My husband barely batted an eyelid & said he wasn't surprised by it, as he said “you're hot & that guy has always liked you” LOL
I didn't want to put my opinion in the post, because I wanted to leave it open for everyone to comment without my opinion jading anyone elses.
My opinion is this: It's all about intention. If someone arranged a date and kissed someone behind their partner's back… then it's unforgivable, in my eyes. That's a lot of damage in just one kiss.
A drunken pash and dash, is going to hurt as well… but it's without that pre-planned intention.
I think in any situation it's best to keep your smackers to yourself and your loved one! x
I would be destroyed, people say a kiss is just a kiss… But if it's with someone you love and trust then it's never 'just a kiss'.
Plus when I was a kid we used to be told that when you pash someone there saliva stays in your mouth for 6 months. EWW! I don't want to pash another persons saliva… I don't know how true this is. It's probably just a little kid rumor. Like watermelons growing in your tummy if you eat the seeds.
And by there I meant THEIR… argh!
pash and dash, you made me laugh with that! your comment is spot on chantelle. depending on circumstances, yes a kiss could be forgiveable, but i don't think forgetable…
No, I can't forgive that.
Knowing my DH, if he's kissed someone else – that's a HUGE deal to him, so it'd be crushing to me.
But I do accept it's relative to the relationship, the people involved and the situation.
Frankly, I don't see how cheating with a kiss is any different to cheating with a shag. It's not about the body parts, but the intention. The need. I couldn't forgive the need but I would try very hard to.
It's probably not something that would end my relationship but it would be very damaged. This is breaking a trust so that element would be very hard to repair.
I think it is cheating, but to be totally honest I don't believe that any sort of cheating is 'unforgiveable'.
Cheating is usually a symptom of other problems. I know of a few relationships that have not only survived betrayl but have flourished once underlying issues were acknowledged and addressed. Being able to forgive was part of that.
I see a kiss as forgivable, anything else is not.
a kiss is about passion, and acting on a passionate feeling. a deal breaker for sure.
there is a reason why prostitutes don't kiss… (or so I've heard)
That's a hard one, it really is.
On one hand, I'd like to say that I could forgive but never forget but then again, I am quite a jealous person, so I think it would eat away at the relationship and therefore would break us up.
I think that if you forgive a man for kissing another woman, it tells him it is OK. If my husband kissed another woman I would never forgive him and he would be left with nothing!! I have warned him in no uncertain terms of the consequences. I have been cheated on before and the hurt is something I NEVER want to go through again. If you're single you can do what you like. If you are in a relationship, then it is just the 2 of you. X
You know, a kiss is a kiss – what would kill me would be just the underlying connection going on between him/her and that other person. But how would you know about that one? Hmmm. Good question though!
i think a relationship should be based on trust…and i trust that my spouse won't kiss (or anything else for that matter) anyone else…those are the commitments we made to each other, if a spouse wants something different then you shouldn't get married and if you don't want to be married any longer then there are obvious steps to be taken…but never break the trust…i believe that people can forgive and forget and move passed cheating but it would be difficult.
actions are powerful and they effect more than just the two people kissing. oh and if it isn't obvious already yes, i believe it's cheating.
-cat
A kiss, no matter what the intention, is a kiss. In my eyes it is considered cheating and unforgivable. <3
Noo I wouldn't forgive AND forget! I don't know I just feel like if it happened, it happened for a reason. Also I hate how guys make excuses and say that the girl kissed him. There's a thing called backing off or pushing her away so the kiss doesn't happen.
I'm curious to what you think about it.
Oh sorry I didn't see your reply to someone else's comment until after I asked you about your opinion.
I think kissing can be more initmate than anything else… I guess I could forgive, but I don't think you would ever really forget…
I think it depends on the circumstance. Sometimes when someone kisses someone else, it's not because they want a quick pash with someone..there are other reasons behind it.
I would say forgiveable, depending on the circumstance. I certainly wouldn't throw a marriage away over a kiss. (Hubby – that's NOT a free pass!)